As I scan into my life, I observed that I have always felt that my parents have been very strict with me. I felt that I have not been allowed to do what I liked to do. A few things like:
- I should not take up medical as my career.. Engineering is better.
- I should not join tennis classes, badminton is ok.
- I should not be out of the house beyond 9 pm.
- I should not talk too long on the phone.
- I don't need to meet my friends everyday.
- If I am going for a day long trip, I should tell them who all are going along with me.
- I should not have close friends as boys and the list goes on and on.
So often I end up yelling "It's my life... Let me do what I want... and I WILL do what I want!!"
:) :)
Little did I realize that my parents did not trust me with what I would be doing with my life, hence the strictness.
Recently, I was going through a video of my teacher where he said, "I am responsible for every day of my life when I wake up. I am accountable to myself with every passing day and the language that I use to myself shapes my day. "
Isn't this exercise a great way to shape our life.
If I and so many more who go through the above situations, can guide ourselves by saying -
"It's my day today and I will not convert myself into a rebel by shouting, yelling and disturbing my peace of mind. Instead, I will live it responsibly, confidently and happily. The key to my happiness and success lies within me. I will need to work on my actions to embed trust in my parents. Only then will I have the authority to demand." - Wouldn't this be great?
If only, I become accountable for my day and in turn, my life, I will be called RESPONSIBLE rather than a REBEL. It's such a simple and a brilliant shift, just by changing my language from "It's my life" to "It's my day", I will be more empowered to live a meaningful and a great day. I will be able to take every opportunity to earn the trust and then I can take charge of my life and direct it the way I want.
A day full of Authority.. A day filled with a sense of Responsibility..
I am working on it. Do let me know your thoughts
Swati
Rediscovering the world - Inside and Outside
- I should not take up medical as my career.. Engineering is better.
- I should not join tennis classes, badminton is ok.
- I should not be out of the house beyond 9 pm.
- I should not talk too long on the phone.
- I don't need to meet my friends everyday.
- If I am going for a day long trip, I should tell them who all are going along with me.
- I should not have close friends as boys and the list goes on and on.
So often I end up yelling "It's my life... Let me do what I want... and I WILL do what I want!!"
:) :)
Little did I realize that my parents did not trust me with what I would be doing with my life, hence the strictness.
Recently, I was going through a video of my teacher where he said, "I am responsible for every day of my life when I wake up. I am accountable to myself with every passing day and the language that I use to myself shapes my day. "
Isn't this exercise a great way to shape our life.
If I and so many more who go through the above situations, can guide ourselves by saying -
"It's my day today and I will not convert myself into a rebel by shouting, yelling and disturbing my peace of mind. Instead, I will live it responsibly, confidently and happily. The key to my happiness and success lies within me. I will need to work on my actions to embed trust in my parents. Only then will I have the authority to demand." - Wouldn't this be great?
If only, I become accountable for my day and in turn, my life, I will be called RESPONSIBLE rather than a REBEL. It's such a simple and a brilliant shift, just by changing my language from "It's my life" to "It's my day", I will be more empowered to live a meaningful and a great day. I will be able to take every opportunity to earn the trust and then I can take charge of my life and direct it the way I want.
A day full of Authority.. A day filled with a sense of Responsibility..
I am working on it. Do let me know your thoughts
Swati
Rediscovering the world - Inside and Outside
